I've heard this word for many many many years. In a church you are going to hear a purity series at least once a year typically around "the month of love." After being in church for 14 years you've heard it all. I get it! Dont get it on till after I'm married, or at least i thought i understood.
After being in relationships myself i understand a bit better. Purity is much deeper than sex or no sex. I once was in a relationship where my girlfriend seemed to all these extra motives and didn't want to be with me to be with me. Stature, that she was dating me, was more important than real me. Thats not a pure relationship. I don't have a whole lot of examples, I haven't dated a whole lot and the few relationships I've had didn't last long. I still understand that purity can come in different forms now.
We are taught a lot of things in church and reading through my bible you find a lot of do's and don'ts. Mostly old testament with a lot of funny ones if you get bored read it in a good translation with a sense of humor. But we are ultimately taught about forgiveness and freedom. Those are all you really need to tell someone who ask why is your religion so great? Tho in "purity talks," no bashing intended, we hear that if you blow it once you make a mess of all your relationships after that one mistake. Forgiveness is mentioned but i think guilt is still there.
I know someone who felt guilty about a past of there's they couldn't even control. They didn't want what happen to happen and it was forced on them. Still feels they is to blame for this happening. They want to be in a pure relationship but didn't feel worthy of it themselves. They have pure intentions, pure motives, a pure relationship with God, and have a genuine love ready to express. They don't have baggage from their past minus the guilt of this abuse done to them. I couldn't help but hear in the back of my mind Jesus screaming out "YOU ARE STILL SO PURE!!!" So we talked much longer and after some crying and praying, from both of us, This person finally felt they had worth again in the area of purity.
I don't think i can understand all that purity means but after my past experiences and conversations with lots of people i'm learning all these purity talks are important. Not just to teach us what to avoid doing before marriage, but also teach us how to be pure in our hearts. Purity in a heart is a quality i value much more than a past that we have been forgiven for already.
